Different reactions of parents to displays of anger in two- and three-year-old children

Joanna Szczęsna

J. Brudziński Voivodeship Children's Hospital in Bydgoszcz
https://orcid.org/0009-0002-6121-1381

Małgorzata Wójtowicz-Szefler

Kazimierz Wielki University in Bydgoszcz, Faculty of Psychology
https://orcid.org/0000-0003-4822-2473


Abstract

Purpose: The aim of this article is to present various parental reactions to displays of anger in two- and three-year-old children (reactive parenting methods) and determine which factors (age, gender, education, and place of residence) differentiate parental reactions to a child's behavior. Additionally, the study aimed to ascertain the reactive parenting methods parents use based on the type of situations reflecting behavioral manifestations of young children's autonomy.

Method: A questionnaire-based study conducted with a sample of 120 parents of two- and three-year-old children (60 women and 60 men). An original questionnaire based on Lev Vygotsky's theory of the third year crisis (2002) was utilized. Participants were tasked with describing their reactions to behavioral displays of anger in small children across seven everyday life situations (negativism, stubbornness, defiance, wilfulness, opposition –

rebellion, deprecation, and despotism).

Results: Parents declared the use of all reactive parenting methods – both inductive and imperative (punitive and psychological aggression) in response to displays of anger in their two- and three-year-old children. Significant predictors for inductive and punitive methods were found to be the parent's age and education level, while for psychological aggression, predictors were gender and place of residence. The study indicated that only women resort to psychological aggression in their relationship with two- and three-year-olds, with its usage being more frequent when the mother's authority is more threatened and the child's opposition to her will becomes increasingly evident.

Conclusion: Behavioral manifestations of autonomy in two- and three-year-olds are influenced by the natural developmental crisis of the third year. These are expressions of frustration in young children rather than displays of aggressive behavior, which require appropriate parenting methods. Based on the study, it was determined that parents primarily declare simultaneous use of inductive and punitive methods, yet the more a child demonstrates autonomy, the higher the declared tendency of parents to resort to punitive methods increases.


Keywords:

reactive parenting methods, displays of anger in two- and three-year-old children


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2023-12-22

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Szczęsna, J., & Wójtowicz-Szefler, M. (2023). Different reactions of parents to displays of anger in two- and three-year-old children. The Review of Psychology, 66(3), 133–151. https://doi.org/10.31648/przegldpsychologiczny.9833

Joanna Szczęsna 
J. Brudziński Voivodeship Children's Hospital in Bydgoszcz
https://orcid.org/0009-0002-6121-1381
Małgorzata Wójtowicz-Szefler 
Kazimierz Wielki University in Bydgoszcz, Faculty of Psychology
https://orcid.org/0000-0003-4822-2473